I used to walk on eggshells around my wife. Know the feeling guys?  All you really want is a smooth, easy relationship. You don’t want the fear or the feeling that no matter what you say it will be wrong or will set off a tirade. You come home from work and she just starts into it first thing. Been there.  I didn’t want to keep living that way.  Do you?

I’ve been married nearly 30 years. I lived 25 years with the gradual loss of connection and intimacy that came with that need to walk on eggshells.  I got to where I avoided coming home, where I just didn’t care about sex or any loving intimacy. But I decided to do something about it. I learned the secret.

That is the secret of knowing how to connect and re-establish a relationship that I WANTED, not where I felt unhappy. The last 5 years have been the best of our marriage. It hasn’t been easy. It demanded work on my part. But it wasn’t all sacrifice, compromise or loss. It was work that made me more than I was, gave me skills as a husband, man and a lover. And it was fun as well.

She runs to greet me at the door at night now. I feel honored, desired and loved. And I can love in return. We have learned how to work through our arguments in ways that leave us feeling listened to and supported, not resentful and disconnected.

What about you? Would you like to have this in your relationship? How badly? The transformation I experienced is what inspired me to become a relationship and intimacy coach. If you’d like to learn more about how I can help you transform your relationship fill out the contact form at https://heateffectcoaching.com/contact-us/ and request a free session with me.