We have been married for 29 years. That may seem amazing in these days when over 50% of first marriages end in divorce. However, like most couples, we have had our ups and downs. The early years were great but as time went on we settled into a routine that did nothing to help our relationship thrive. Everything else took priority – our jobs, our volunteer work, our hobbies. We went to marriage counseling when we had a couple of especially rough patches. Counseling helped get us back on track but it didn’t really make our relationship better. Throw in some health problems and by the time we reached our 25th wedding anniversary our relationship was mediocre at best.
We decided to do something about it. We started making our relationship a priority. Our relationship didn’t just get revitalized; it is better than it has ever been.
Our journey has not always been easy. We’ve had some very difficult conversations and allowed ourselves to be more vulnerable with each other than ever before. We had support along the way from excellent teachers and coaches who were willing to push us out of our comfort zone and supported us as we changed ourselves and changed our relationship. We now have a deeply connected, hot, juicy, thriving relationship. Gone are the days of silently fuming because our partner was not paying enough attention to us; the days of sex three or four times a year; the days of wondering why am I even in this relationship.