Heat Effect

Life and Intimacy Coaching

Bios

We have been married for over 30 years. That may seem amazing in these days when over 50% of first marriages end in divorce. However, like most couples, we have had our ups and downs. The early years were great but as time went on we settled into a routine that did nothing to help our relationship thrive. Everything else took priority – our jobs, our volunteer work, our hobbies. We went to marriage counseling when we had a couple of especially rough patches. Counseling helped get us back on track but it didn’t really make our relationship better. Throw in some health problems and by the time we reached our 25th wedding anniversary our relationship was mediocre at best.

We decided to do something about it. We started making our relationship a priority. Our relationship didn’t just get revitalized; it is better than it has ever been.

Our journey

Our journey has not always been easy. We’ve had some very difficult conversations and allowed ourselves to be more vulnerable with each other than ever before. We had support along the way from excellent teachers and coaches who were willing to push us out of our comfort zone and supported us as we changed ourselves and changed our relationship. We now have a deeply connected, hot, juicy, thriving relationship. Gone are the days of silently fuming because our partner was not paying enough attention to us; the days of sex three or four times a year; the days of wondering why am I even in this relationship.

We see so many people out there just getting by or outright suffering. We want to change that. We’ve studied to be life coaches specializing in helping you identify and pursue your desires. Let us help you design the life and relationships that you want.

Kevin's Bio

Kevin’s Bio

I was born into a family marked by illness, death and grief.  My mother was a family caregiver and so people came to my home in times of illness; some died there. My father had a paralyzing condition that confined him to a wheelchair and bed; he suffered a slow, painful death at home. Growing up among illness and death taught me that life is short so my mantra became “live life to the fullest today because you may only have today!”  I sought out adventure and whatever level of thrill was available to me. I particularly gravitated to outdoor adventures, becoming skilled as a wilderness survivalist, tracker, search and rescue specialist, wilderness first aid provider and winter camping enthusiast.

But the day came when I reached a point of “been there, done that” and I felt lost. Life became dull, drab and I lost my interest in it. This grayness seeped into all areas of my life including my marriage.  My interest in sex had dropped way off. I had lost the ability to communicate with my wife. I found myself feeling like I just didn’t even care.  I went on a dogsled adventure that should have thrilled me; it didn’t. What it did do was wake me up the fact that the fire was gone. I needed something to awaken my passion, my dying spirit. I wanted to find my way back. I chose to find my way back.

I began to search for something to reignite my life.  I discovered a practice that did this for me: Orgasmic Meditation.  And along with my wife, I went deep into the personal growth and inner discovery that this path provided.  It gave me back that fire and drive that I missed.  I became a certified life coach and today I work with other people looking to find that something that they need in their own life.

Then we both went further. Jaiya Ma is an internationally recognized award-winning sexologist.  Her Erotic Blueprint Program helped me accept aspects of my sexuality that I had buried and the program helped my wife and I find a new level of passion.

I am living proof that you can choose to make a change in your life for the better. Your relationships don’t need to be boring and passionless.  Your life can be full of heat. I invite you to live your life to the fullest today because you may only have today! Don’t waste your chance and don’t wait another minute.  Let me help you find your passion!

Belinda's Bio

Belinda’s Bio

I grew up during the sixties but the sexual revolution didn’t make it to my house. The messages I received about sex were all about what not to do – don’t have sex before marriage; don’t touch yourself; don’t flirt – it makes you a target because men are only interested in one thing. My mother was trying to keep me safe; she did her best based on her own upbringing and experience. Those messages may have served me as a child but they didn’t help me understand how to enjoy sex. I developed a lot of shame around sexuality. That shame has affected not just my sexual relationships but my view of myself as a woman.

I was in my 50’s before I opened my view of sexuality and started healing my shame. My first breakthrough came when my husband introduced me to orgasmic meditation the evening before our 25th wedding anniversary. It is the best gift he has ever given me because it was the first step on a journey that has helped me grow into a woman who appreciates and enjoys sex. One segment of my journey has been studying with Jaiya, an internationally recognized, award-winning sexologist. Jaiya’s erotic blueprint system has helped me learn to honor my need for sensual touch. It has also helped me learn to work with my partner’s blueprint which has made for more satisfying, connected, hot sex for both of us.